How to Cope with Putting your Loved One in Assisted Living
When the time comes where you’ve begun to notice some changes in your loved one’s ability to live on their own, it can be a very challenging process for you. A time like this brings up so many emotions for the both of you and having a successful transition can all depend on how you cope.
It’s most likely a guarantee that you’ll begin to feel sad, depressed, scared, and as if you’re giving up on them, but you don’t have to feel that way. Seniors never want to lose their independence and can be sensitive to the thought of having to rely on strangers to get through the day, but once things get settles, the both of you will realize it was done to better their life, not to hurt it.
We come across many family members just like you who struggle with this process, even more so then the senior they’re placing in a home. They feel guilty, especially after it’s over and done with, and that feeling won’t go away unless you properly work through it and realize that placing them in an assisted living home was for the better because they’ll be able to receive the best care possible at any hour of the day.
Sometimes it’s a part of life
Yes, there are people who live a long, healthy life without ever having to move into an assisted living home, but those are rare cases. You have to remember that you did not cause your loved one’s condition, and they can’t control what illnesses they’re diagnosed with, it unfortunately just happens. Don’t shy away from making this decision because you’re scared of how they’ll react, do it because you know it’s the best thing for them, and take comfort in knowing that you can always visit them whenever you please.
It’s okay to admit you can’t do it
We have our own schedules and responsibilities that we have to take care of on a daily basis, and having to take care of a senior loved one can be difficult to squeeze in. Your loved one deserves the best care possible, and you, no matter how hard you try, may not be able to give them that, and it’s okay! They understand that you have kids, or a busy work life that you need to take care of in order to live, just make sure that they always know that you love them.
Know that you put them under the best care
As a loved one, you obviously want to make sure your senior receives the best care possible, and the research and effort you put in to finding them the perfect place to live can help the coping process significantly. The moment you realize that you can’t give them the care they need, you should start surfing the web and looking for homes near you that are compatible with their situation. You want this home to be the perfect fit for them, so think about what they’re going to need and what type of personality they have, and set up some interviews to try and get a feel so the decision is easier.
And finally, this may sound easier than it actually is, but letting go is so important. Don’t let your pride prevent you from giving your loved one the care they deserve. The last thing you want is to hold on to them when you can only care for them a few hours of the day or week. Remember that just because you’re not their primary caregiver anymore doesn’t mean that you can’t love them or care for them just the same as you did before.
We know that putting your loved one in an assisted living home is one of the decisions that many of us would rather not face. The love you have for him or her most likely runs deep and all you want to do is protect them from everything you can. Learn to cope with the process by thinking about the above tips. Once it’s all done, and they’re all moved in and acclimated, you’ll see why moving them into an assisted living home was the right decision, and it’ll make you feel so much better!